Writing support, both virtual and real – an IWSG post #IWSG

Happy February everyone! Is it just me, or does January always feel like the longest month ever? But we’ve made it through and it’s now the second day of February. And it’s a Wednesday, so you know what that means …

If you’re not familiar with the significance of the first Wednesday of the month, then let me fill you in. On this day, lots of writerly folk like to get together over at the Insecure Writer’s Support Group (or IWSG for short) and share tips and tricks and highs and lows from their writing life and experiences. It’s a wonderful place to meet new people and realise that we’re not alone on this writing journey; there are plenty of others going through the same things at different stages. The main sign-up page has all the details you need to join in, so let’s get to it!

This month the co-hosts are Joylene Nowell Butler, Jacqui Murray, Sandra Cox and Lee Lowry. Thank you lovelies for hosting! Make sure you head over and say hello to them before checking out some of the other contributors in the IWSG.

This month, we’re considering the following question:

Is there someone who supported or influenced you that perhaps isn’t around anymore? Anyone you miss?

When I returned to work following maternity leave I was doing something slightly different and working with someone new. I didn’t know this person particularly well so I was a bit nervous about it, but it was actually the best thing to have happened, writing-wise.

We soon got talking about interests and both tentatively mentioned that we enjoyed writing, although neither of us had done much for a long time. The first big step I took during this time was to show them some of my writing and over the next few months we both wrote much more than we had been doing, and even shared ideas for a collaborative project.

This was also the time when I first got into blogging. From 2011 to 2015 I blogged quite consistently, contributing to weekly and monthly blog hops, blog tours and A-Z challenges. And then I just stopped. Having looked at the dates, I realise now that this coincided with me returning to work after my second maternity leave, and it was obviously the thing that had to be dropped once I became a working mother of two.

Something else that I now realise is how long it’s been since I stopped, my youngest is now 7, and that makes me feel really sad. But here I am, trying to get back on it!

Sorry, I digress. In a nutshell, I have my former work colleague to thank for encouraging and supporting me and it was a real shame when they left to work somewhere else. We occasionally message each other, but I do miss having those conversations.

Weirdly, where I’m working now there is also someone who is keen on their writing and we talk about it a lot, and they are probably one of the reasons why I’m feeling encouraged to get back into it again. It’s been good for me to have someone to bounce ideas off and feel accountable to.

Writing can feel like a very solitary thing, and in a lot of ways that’s good. I like having quiet time to think and get ideas down on the page, but it’s also great to have someone to talk to about it as well, both in the flesh and through blogs and social media.

So, I’m thanking all of you as well, for being so encouraging and ready with advice and support. I hope I can repay the same for someone else in the same position.

Have you had someone in your life that was important for getting your writing moving?

14 thoughts on “Writing support, both virtual and real – an IWSG post #IWSG

  1. Our priorities definitely determine how we manage our time. Family was always at the top of my list, as well. I love our on-line writing community. There’s something for everyone here.

  2. “Writing can feel like a very solitary thing, and in a lot of ways that’s good. I like having quiet time to think and get ideas down on the page, but it’s also great to have someone to talk to about it as well.”

    I feel like I’m constantly swinging back and forth between these two things. Certain corners of the writing community can be so toxic, and so I pull back and hide in my writing cave. But then I’m lonely and longing for the connections I used to have. I don’t seem to have found a happy medium yet. LOL.

    1. Hi Marie, thanks for stopping by. There are some less-welcoming corners of the writing community, as you say, but there’s so many lovely ones too. It’s well worth taking the time to look for them. Of course, you can’t go wrong with the IWSG!

      P.S. Your message did come through twice, but it’s ok, I enjoyed it 😉

    1. I wonder, is that deliberate or because you’re shy about it? Either reason is perfectly fine, of course. I have found that it’s helped my confidence to say out loud, ‘I’m a writer!’ but everyone has their own journey. Thanks for stopping by.

  3. Having support from a friend or colleague who enjoys writing or encouraging writers can be such an important motivating force. But having kids and then tending to them takes a lot of time and energy. Now I’m retired. I devote a lot of energy to being unmotivated.

    Hope you continue to have that force behind you to keep you writing.

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

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