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Conflicted about writing conflict – an IWSG post #IWSG

I’m doing a little celebratory dance today because this is the third month IN A ROW that I’ve posted for the ISWG 🎉 I’m slowly getting back on track! Whoop whoop!

The IWSG is a wonderful group of people who help each other through their writerly lives, sharing the ups and downs, and are generally an amazing bunch who are always on hand with an encouraging word or two (or three, or four, or five …) Anyway, please do go and check them out and see who else has posted on their sign-up list.

This month the co-hosts are Janet Alcorn, Pat Garcia, Natalie Aguirre and Shannon Lawrence. Thank you lovelies for hosting! Make sure you head over and say hello to them as well as checking out some of the other contributors in the IWSG.

Each month there is an optional question to ponder and discuss, and the topic for March is:

Have you ever been conflicted about writing a story or adding a scene to a story? How did you decide to write it, or not?

I’ve thought long and hard about this, but I don’t really think I’ve ever been conflicted about writing something; at least not yet, anyway.

Perhaps I’m not far enough along on my writing journey, or perhaps the topics and issues I’ve written about aren’t ones that have the potential to make me feel that way. Which also makes me wonder if that makes them less readable or enjoyable. If I’m ‘playing safe’ all the time with my writing, does that mean it isn’t interesting, or does it just mean that I feel comfortable with what I’m writing, enough that I don’t feel conflicted about it?

Hmmm, this question really is a thinker for me, and I may need to get back to you when I can answer it more fully.

I’d love to hear what others have made of this question, and will be heading to the IWSG list to see what they think.

How about you? Have you ever been conflicted in your writing?

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Writing support, both virtual and real – an IWSG post #IWSG

Happy February everyone! Is it just me, or does January always feel like the longest month ever? But we’ve made it through and it’s now the second day of February. And it’s a Wednesday, so you know what that means …

If you’re not familiar with the significance of the first Wednesday of the month, then let me fill you in. On this day, lots of writerly folk like to get together over at the Insecure Writer’s Support Group (or IWSG for short) and share tips and tricks and highs and lows from their writing life and experiences. It’s a wonderful place to meet new people and realise that we’re not alone on this writing journey; there are plenty of others going through the same things at different stages. The main sign-up page has all the details you need to join in, so let’s get to it!

This month the co-hosts are Joylene Nowell Butler, Jacqui Murray, Sandra Cox and Lee Lowry. Thank you lovelies for hosting! Make sure you head over and say hello to them before checking out some of the other contributors in the IWSG.

This month, we’re considering the following question:

Is there someone who supported or influenced you that perhaps isn’t around anymore? Anyone you miss?

When I returned to work following maternity leave I was doing something slightly different and working with someone new. I didn’t know this person particularly well so I was a bit nervous about it, but it was actually the best thing to have happened, writing-wise.

We soon got talking about interests and both tentatively mentioned that we enjoyed writing, although neither of us had done much for a long time. The first big step I took during this time was to show them some of my writing and over the next few months we both wrote much more than we had been doing, and even shared ideas for a collaborative project.

This was also the time when I first got into blogging. From 2011 to 2015 I blogged quite consistently, contributing to weekly and monthly blog hops, blog tours and A-Z challenges. And then I just stopped. Having looked at the dates, I realise now that this coincided with me returning to work after my second maternity leave, and it was obviously the thing that had to be dropped once I became a working mother of two.

Something else that I now realise is how long it’s been since I stopped, my youngest is now 7, and that makes me feel really sad. But here I am, trying to get back on it!

Sorry, I digress. In a nutshell, I have my former work colleague to thank for encouraging and supporting me and it was a real shame when they left to work somewhere else. We occasionally message each other, but I do miss having those conversations.

Weirdly, where I’m working now there is also someone who is keen on their writing and we talk about it a lot, and they are probably one of the reasons why I’m feeling encouraged to get back into it again. It’s been good for me to have someone to bounce ideas off and feel accountable to.

Writing can feel like a very solitary thing, and in a lot of ways that’s good. I like having quiet time to think and get ideas down on the page, but it’s also great to have someone to talk to about it as well, both in the flesh and through blogs and social media.

So, I’m thanking all of you as well, for being so encouraging and ready with advice and support. I hope I can repay the same for someone else in the same position.

Have you had someone in your life that was important for getting your writing moving?

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Happy New Year! – an IWSG post #IWSG

Not only is it the first Wednesday of the month, but it’s the first Wednesday of the year! Happy new year to you all and I hope you enjoyed your holiday break, whatever you were able to get up to.

If you’re not familiar with the significance of the first Wednesday of the month, then let me fill you in. On this day, lots of writerly folk like to get together over at the Insecure Writer’s Support Group (or IWSG for short) and share tips and tricks and highs and lows from their writing life and experiences. It’s a wonderful place to meet new people and realise that we’re not alone on this writing journey; there are plenty of others going through the same things at different stages. The main sign-up page has all the details you need to join in, so let’s get to it!

This month the co-hosts are Erika Beebe, Olga Godim, Sandra Cox, Sarah Foster and Chemist Ken. Thank you lovelies for hosting! Make sure you head over and say hello to them before checking out some of the other contributors in the IWSG.

The topic of conversation on this fine January day is:

What’s the one thing about your writing career you regret the most? Were you able to overcome it?

My main, and probably only, regret so far in my writing career is leaving it so late to get going with it properly.

Over the past 13 years I’ve dipped in and out of writing, spending most of that time ‘out’ of the practice of doing it regularly. When my eldest was very much younger I got myself into a good rhythm with my writing, blogging more regularly and contributing to a few different writing blog hops on a weekly basis. Then my youngest came along and I was no longer able to keep the momentum going; work and home and family took over, and it was my writing that had to be sacrificed.

I’ve collected so many ideas over this time, for both short stories and longer works-in-progress, but I got out of the habit of finishing anything. Now that my children are so much older (13 and 7, eek!), I find myself becoming more able to make the time for writing again, and I’m in the process of re-establishing some kind of routine for regular time at the computer or with my notebook.

So, to answer the second part of the discussion, I’m making efforts now to overcome my regret. I’m reluctant to say it’s a New Year’s resolution, but with the start of the new year I am feeling more positive and upbeat about it. I’m looking forward to seeing how far I can go in 2022!

How about you? Do you have any regrets about your writing career?

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Reading and writing: genre specific or open to all? – an IWSG post #IWSG

Happy March everyone! The weather is finally beginning to turn for the better here, the sun is starting to shine properly and I’m no longer hugging the radiators quite so much. All good things to make for a more cheerful and positive disposition!

I had a major dip in February, with too much of it spent feeling negative and down. But with the improved weather comes an improved outlook, something I also get from being a part of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group (IWSG). The main sign-up page has all the details you need to join in, so let’s get to it!

The co-hosts for March are Sarah – The Faux Fountain Pen, Jacqui Murray, Chemist Ken, Victoria Marie Lees, Natalie Aguirre and JQ Rose (thank you guys!) and we’re talking about everyone’s favourite genre or genres to write. And what about your reading preferences? Do you read widely or only within the genre(s) you create stories for? What motivates your reading choice?

Favourite writing genres

I’m not entirely sure I have a favourite genre to write, I just like to write if and when I can, but once I get started my writing does tend to start moving in particular directions. I like to think about behaviours and relationships and what would happen if a character made a particular decision to do something, but before long the story usually starts to move towards the fantastical, mystical and otherworldly. Even when I try and ground myself in something more real-life, there’s still an element of the supernatural about it, whether it’s a secret power that someone’s hiding or a visitor from another planet trying to find their way around.

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Reading preferences

My first loves of reading are science fiction and fantasy. I love thinking about the possibilities of things ‘other’ than this world and where those possibilities can take a person/character. For me, nothing is really far-fetched if it’s established and believable enough in it’s own world. I also love a good thriller, as well as classics and contemporary. To be honest, I’ll read pretty much anything and it’s good to take in something different every now and then.

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I certainly don’t limit my reading to a particular genre or two, although I may go through a phase of sticking to one. Sooner or later I vary my reading choices though and will move on to something different.

The last few books I’ve read have been recommendations from friends, and at work there is a basket full of books and we have a bit of read and share thing going on (quarantine procedures and Covid protocols firmly in place, of course). I am looking forward to being able to wander around a bookshop again and pick up whatever takes my fancy. I’d forgotten that I’d missed that until writing this post 😢

So, how about you? What genres do you read/write about, and do you stick to one/a few or shake it up and see what you get?

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Distractions and annoyances (in writing, not people) – an IWSG post #IWSG

A very happy new year to everyone! As I write this, my first post of 2021, I’m contemplating what the year may hold. There are so many things beyond our control right now, but one thing that is in my control is my blog, my writing and where I want to go with it.

And what better place to start than with the Insecure Writer’s Support Group (IWSG). The main sign-up page has all the details you need to join in, in whatever capacity you want to, as well as links to everyone taking part. Why not dip your toe in? I promise, you won’t be disappointed.

The co-hosts for the January edition of the IWSG are Ronel Janse van Vuurren, J Lenni Dorner, Gwen Gardner, Sandra Cox and Louise – Fundy Blue.

The question set for this month’s post has us thinking about what stops us from finishing a book, throws us out of the story or frustrates us the most about other people’s books?

One of the main things that can jar my reading of a novel or story is a lack of continuity. I’ll just be settling down and getting to know Jack and his wife Amanda, getting comfortable around their two children and their dog Murphy, and the last thing I want to read is that his wife Alison has run off and abandoned Jack, his three children and their cat.

OK, so this is a pretty extreme example of what I mean, and, thankfully, I’ve never read anything that drifts as much as this, but you get my point. Ensuring that continuity is right, all the way through a story, helps to build trust between author and reader. When I’m reading, if the continuity starts to wander a little I find that I’m constantly checking for other little errors that may have crept in and it distracts me from what’s happening in the story.

Another distraction I come across as a reader, which I appreciate won’t niggle everyone, concerns accurate descriptions and regional terminology. I read a book recently that described a particular children’s tank engine, famous for its bright blue a red colouring. In the book it referred to it as green and yellow and mentioned it as Thomas the Tank Engine. My mental equilibrium was knocked out for quite a while as I tried to reconcile the image with the description, time I should have spent being more absorbed in the story.

In the same book, and not too much further on from the train incident, the main character referred to a sonogram. Now, the book was set in the UK, the characters were British and the book was sold in the UK. I know this doesn’t count for everyone, but I’m sure a good proportion of us Brits would refer to such an event as an ultrasound. Again, my concentration was knocked by this little distraction and it took a while for me to get back in sync with the characters.

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Having these niggles about other people’s writing makes me think about my own writing much more critically and I certainly hope that I’m not guilty of any of the above. Hmmm, this seems like a good time to sign off so I can go and check …

How about you? What distracts or puts you off when reading somebody else’s stories?

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Writing is one of my winter sports – an IWSG post #IWSG

I’m writing this post as part of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group (IWSG). This wonderful group contribute on the first Wednesday of every month to inspire, encourage and cheer on fellow writers, no matter what stage of their journey. The main sign-up page has all the details, as well as links to everyone taking part. If you’re struggling with your writing, want to share your success or just want to catch up with fellow writerly folk, then this is the place to go.

The co-hosts for the December edition of the IWSG are Pat Garcia, Sylvia Ney, Liesbet @ Roaming About, Cathrina Constantine and Natalie Aguirre. A huge thank you to you guys!

This month we are talking about whether there are months or times of the year when you are more productive with your writing and why.

I was thinking about this while I was out running this morning, and it occurred to me how many similarities there are between my running brain and my writing brain. In the summer months running can often be an effort, particularly if the weather is hot. Running in the heat certainly takes a lot more out of me, that’s for sure. The summertime also offers more opportunities to be out and about doing things with friends and family (although not in 2020, obvs. 🤭), leaving less time to schedule in many running trips.

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I find the same with my writing. If it’s too hot during the day, I find it difficult to concentrate on anything for long periods. The heat can sap away at my energy levels fairly quickly, and I turn into Mrs Unreasonable far more often than I’d like to admit.

In the winter, although it can be chilly and wet and windy, I find my running performance improves a lot. As long as I wear enough layers and keep my ears and neck covered, the motion of running itself is enough to keep me warm on my travels.

And with writing, well, there’s nothing better than holing up inside the house when it’s too cold and wet to do much else outside. Reading and writing really are two of the best ways to spend a winter’s evening, especially if you have a gorgeous fire and mug of hot chocolate to keep you company. My word count certainly seems to go up when it’s colder outside.

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How about you? When is your most productive time of the year? Maybe it’s cyclical. I’d love to hear about it, so please do leave a comment and share your writing habits.

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An apology, and a reason to write – an IWSG post #IWSG

This post is part of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group (IWSG), an inspiring blog hop for writers of all kinds. For more details go to the main sign-up page, and make sure to drop by a few blogs while you’re there.

The co-hosts for the November edition of the IWSG are Jemi Fraser, Kim Lajevardi, L G Keltner, Tyrean Martinson and Rachna Chhabria. Make sure you head over to see these guys and share some IWSG love!

Each month the IWSG posts a question that can be used in the next blog post, as a guide for sharing thoughts and advice to fellow writers. This month the question is:

Albert Camus once said, “The purpose of a writer is to keep civilization from destroying itself.” Flannery O’Conner said, “I write to discover what I know.” Authors across time and distance have had many reasons to write. Why do you write what you write?

Before I go ahead and answer this question, I’d just like to send my apologies to the fabulous IWSG team. Over the last few months I’ve been trying to get back into good blogging habits, posting more regularly and engaging with you lovely lot. I’ve added myself back on the IWSG sign-up list twice but, due to a severe lack of posting, my blog has been removed, and rightly so. I appreciate the purpose of this here blog hop and it’s a waste of people’s precious time to visit blogs that regularly fail to post anything that contributes.

I’m definitely one for perseverance though, so here I am again, adding my blog back on the list and I am contributing 🎉 Long may it continue …

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As far as the question goes, I write what I write because otherwise the stories just get stuck in my head. Sometimes it’s just a snippet of something that sits and burrows its way into my subconscious, and other times there’s more of a story and flow, with characters making progress and actually getting somewhere. If I don’t take the time to write it out, it gets stuck in my mind like a broken record, continually going around in a loop until it’s let out and space is made for the next one.

I imagine the answer to this questions is similar for all of us. Yes, it’s nice to have appreciation for our art and maybe, just maybe, some financial reward. But this isn’t the sole reason for writing, at least not for me. I’ve got notebooks and computer space filled with writing that I’ve never shown to anyone. They’re just for me right now, but I’m sure that they’ll see the light of day eventually.

How about you? Why do you write what you write?

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Form and genre: planning and meandering- an IWSG post #IWSG

This post is part of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group (IWSG), an inspiring blog hop for writers of all kinds. For more details go to the main sign-up page, and make sure to drop by a few blogs while you’re there.

The co-hosts for the August edition of the IWSG are Susan Baury Rouchard, Nancy Gideon, Jennifer Lane, Jennifer Hawes, Chemist Ken and Chrys Fey. Make sure you head over to see these guys and share some IWSG love!

Each month the IWSG posts a question that can be used in the next blog post, as a guide for sharing thoughts and advice to fellow writers. This month the question is:

Quote: “Although I have written a short story collection, the form found me and not the other way around. Don’t write short stories, novels or poems. Just write your truth and your stories will mould into the shapes they need to be.”
Have you ever written a piece that became a form, or even a genre, you hadn’t planned on writing in? Or do you choose a form/genre in advance?

Firstly, happy August everyone! I almost didn’t make it to this month’s IWSG post. The children are now in their summer holidays, which means I have very little time for things like this unless I get up earlier than everyone else and/or stay up later (I chose the former option for this one).

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At the moment, all signs are pointing towards a return to school in September, but at the back of my mind I’m preparing myself for more home schooling/home working/spending way too much time with my children and everything that comes with it all.

Now, to the question: It’s not often that the form I’m writing in has shaped itself into something else. When I’m writing a short story, for example, I’m very aware of the reduced word limit that I’m trying to stick to and the importance of still ticking all the beginning/middle/end boxes that make the story work. This means that I’m actively working to contain the story within the limits of the form. Different methods are used within short story writing to deliberately move the story on swiftly to keep the narrative flowing, and, although the same could be said for longer forms, they can be used slightly differently and over longer periods.

Now genre, that definitely does have a tendency to shape itself into something other than what I’d first intended. When I first started writing I’d usually begin a story with something in the sci-fi/fantasy genres (my favourite for reading and writing), but very quickly I noticed that other genres would creep in, most notably horror, psychological thriller and mystery. I was most surprised by the psychological thriller aspect, and it certainly wasn’t something that I’d ever thought I’d want or be able to write. It does make me wonder how much of a reflection it is on how my mind works!

So, how about you? Do you pre-plan your form and genre, or do you just let it flow right from the start and see where it takes you?

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A secret writer trying to open up – an IWSG post #IWSG

This post is part of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group (IWSG), a wonderful blog hop for writers of all kinds; those new to writing, those who are old hands at it, those who do it full time and those who just write when they can. For more details go to the main sign-up page, and make sure to drop by a few blogs while you’re there.

The co-hosts for the June edition of the IWSG are Pat Garcia, J.Q. Rose and Natalie Aguirre. Make sure you head over to see these guys and share some IWSG love!

Each month the IWSG posts a question that can be used in the next blog post, as a guide for sharing thoughts and advice to fellow writers. This month the question is:

Writers have secrets! What are one or two of yours, something readers would never know from your work?

I’m not sure about my writerly secrets, but one thing that’s for sure is that I’ve kept my identity as a writer a secret from most people for a very long time. My reasons for this vary:

  1. I’ve never thought my writing good enough for me to earn the title of ‘writer’.
  2. I’ve not had the confidence to show my writing to more than a handful of people.
  3. My impostor syndrome prevents me from moving forward with my writing in any meaningful way for fear of being found out as a fraud.
  4. I worry that people will mock me and wonder how I could possibly think I’d be any good as a writer.
  5. I’m heading towards 40 and am now paranoid that I’ve left it too late to make any kind of success out of my writing.

I know I’m not alone in thinking these things about my writer self, which is one of the things I love about this online writer community. It’s a boost to be among like-minded people that I can bounce ideas off and spill all my worries to. Thank you for that, by the way.

And now that I’ve actually written these so-called ‘reasons’ down and removed them from my head space, I feel like I’m better able to tackle my insecurities and just get on with my writing.

After all, the bottom line is that I write for me; it’s something I enjoy and it gives me a sense of purpose and achievement. I’m sure that I will share my stories with more people at some point; in some ways it’s easier to send them out to people I don’t know (competitions, publications, etc.) than to have them read by people I do know.

A good first step for me towards this goal is sharing my words with you lovely folk, so thank you for reading my ramble.

How about you, do you have any writing secrets?

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Getting back on the writing horse – an IWSG post #IWSG

This post is part of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group (IWSG), an awesome blog hop frequented by writers of all kinds; those new to writing, those who are more seasoned, those who do it full time and those who dip in and out. For more details go to the main sign-up page, and why not drop by a few blogs while you’re there. Make sure you’ve got plenty of time though, you could be there longer than you thought …

The awesome co-hosts for the May 6 posting of the IWSG are Feather Stone, Beverly Stowe McClure, Mary Aalgaard, Kim Lajevardi, and Chemist Ken. Make sure you head over to see these guys and share some IWSG love!

Each month the IWSG posts a question that can be used in the next blog post, as a guide for sharing thoughts and advice to fellow writers. This month the question on everyone’s lips blogs is:

Do you have any rituals that you use when you need help getting into the ZONE? Care to share?

So, it’s fair to say that I’ve been out of the writing zone for a very long time (my apologies if this isn’t news to some). The usual life milestones have wedged themselves firmly in the way, as well as work changes/challenges and other factors beyond my control.

But one good thing (and I like to dwell on the positives if I can) that has come out of this lock down situation is that I have a lot more time on my hands. Yes, things are equally, if not more, stressful at home with two children requiring homeschooling and working from home myself as well, but once the cherubs are in bed, I suddenly have more time for myself. I’m not having to head out for my mid-week darts match or run the children around to all their after-school stuff. And as for the weekends, all I really have on the to-do list is the weekly shop and a run around the block.

The first two or three weeks were tough as we adjusted to a new normal, but now things have settled a bit I want to use my time more productively, and that means getting back to writing. I’m trying to get myself back into a routine and make writing a habit again, something I plan into my day without having to think about it. I’ve been trying to free write for 15 minutes every day and so far I’m managing to do this three times a week. I’m hoping this will start stretching my writing muscles again so I can get back to writing like I used to.

How about you? Do you have any rituals you’d like to share? Any tips for me to help get back on that writing horse? I look forward to picking up some pointers.